Boyfriends/Girlfriends at camp

[code3cadet]

Can you all date the staff at your camp. at the camp that I worked at that is all the staff did. looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. at your camp is it alright to date other staff

[camper]

at my camp it's fine as long as it doesn't interfere with your job. the kids are allowed to know that you're going out w/someone, whether they're at camp or not, as long as you don't tell them anything sexual. i know a lot of camps are really really strict about campers even knowing about staff relationships though.

[code3cadet]

ya Mine is they did not want the kids to know at all

[speedx5xracer]

Mine is basically the same as Campers. How ever the kids shouldnt be flat out told about them but if they figure it out its ok.

[CAMPFRIEND]

I think that dating is a part of camp. I think that for all camps the big thing is that the campers don’t find out and we all hope that it will not effect camp.

[code3cadet]

It is a big port at some camps. the camp directer was the one that wanted everyone to look for a boyfriend/girlfriend he had games for us to try and make one. but the kids are not aloud to know how was with how. at the counsler action he put the boyfriend and girlfriend together.

[audur]

There's always quite a few hookups at my camp, but the campers never catch on - sometimes they'll ask if certain counselors are best friends, though. They might catch on if there were actually some male staff at the camp - most campers just don't realize that same-sex relationships are a possibility.

[Skater Bubbles]

At my camp there are always some staff that date other staff and you really can't stop it. My camp director says that as long as the campers don't find out then he isn't going to have an issue with it, unless it's underage/overage thing, then it's bad. We had that last summer a 19 year old counselor was dating an 17 year old counsleor and because she was under age there were some issues!!

[Dave]

Yes, you're allowed at our camp. In fact, there was a boyfriend and girlfriend on my bus. They'd sit in one of the seats and make out, right in front of all the kids. It was gross.

[Flukie]

Yes - but we ask that A) the campers don't know and B) you respect other staff and don't make anyone uncomfortable with over the top behavior (ie. making out in the middle of the staff house is bad - whether it is with a guy or a girl!).

And there is always the stand-by: No sex on camp property.

[CAMPFRIEND]

Yes, you're allowed at our camp. In fact, there was a boyfriend and girlfriend on my bus. They'd sit in one of the seats and make out, right in front of all the kids. It was gross.

That's not a good thing for the campers to see. I wonder if any of the parents found out or had a problem with it. How can you watch the kids if you making out on the bus? It's good to know that you were on the bus doing your job! Good Job Dave!

[Dave]

I'm sure the parents found out because there were plenty of kids trying to do what they were doing. There was actually one girl going around kissing everyone on the bus. We tried our best not to get the kids to watch, but we couldn't stop looking after the other kids either.

[CAMPFRIEND]

Did your directors find out about it?

[code3cadet]

Ya WE have a boom boom room for that. that is way it is called the boom boom room

[CAMPFRIEND]

I hope that counselors are only in that room during their time off! I also hope that campers never find out about that room!

[Dave]

Did your directors find out about it?
I'm not sure. I know all the kids never stopped making fun of them for the rest of the summer.

[code3cadet]

I hope that counselors are only in that room during their time off! I also hope that campers never find out about that room!

The kids know about the boom boom room. it is are brack room. I never go in there i am always at my friends cabin when it is time off. the staff call it the boom boom room in front of them all the time. kids are not domb they know what is going on most of the time

[rockinsmiles]

Whoa..that is kind of scary to have a room for that. We have lots of hook ups at camp. However the campers are never to know. Normally the staff is pretty good at staying in a comfort zone around the other staff as well...besides for this one couple...i sware if i walked in on them any more...i just hated it! relationships can cuz a lot of drama though and that can suck sometimes as well. i dont mind em but sometimes i wish the hook ups didnt happen (i think it spilts the staff up some too cuz the couples want to go off on their own).

[code3cadet]

that is what you get when you mix Americans with Australian's

[rockinsmiles]

none of our aussie really hooked up this year...last year the australian and one of the colombian's did though (colombians aint our camp are always the "go getters" it seems)

[code3cadet]

I love Australian's all of my friends are australian it is fun to go out any were with them. all the australian's from camp are trying to stay in the USA

[rockinsmiles]

Oh they are great. i love international staff in general...and its always nice to know that if when you got to that country you have a place to stay and not to be alone! :)

[code3cadet]

ya they are always telling me if I go there i can stay at their house

[Fleur]

We've had relationships at our camp. The general rule for it is that relationships have to be at arms length during camp hours (we're a day camp.) Most staff are pretty good about following that. The few that don't are the ones that either are let go, or aren't asked back the following year.

[code3cadet]

That is good for a day camp but as a overnight camp you are always around the youth

[who_stole_my_loofa]

were allowed to do whatever as long as we dont PDA in front of campers or give them intimate details. its ok if they find out- but its really more annoying for the people in the relationship if they do find out anyway.

loofa

[CAMPFRIEND]

Well Dave I am not sure what to say. I don't think that should have happend on the bus. I hope the two staff members don't come back this summer! I don't think that I would ever let that happen at my camp. I know that my parents would not deal with it either.

[Dave]

I was surprised that girl still worked at camp, actually. The year before she called a camper an a-hole. :eek:

[code3cadet]

I was surprised that girl still worked at camp, actually. The year before she called a camper an a-hole. :eek:
behind that backs of many campers I call them names. but the staff rate on me so I just did it with my bunk mate

[CAMPFRIEND]

I was surprised that girl still worked at camp, actually. The year before she called a camper an a-hole. :eek:

That is way out of line. Why did she want to work at camp?

[Dave]

Well both her sisters went to the camp so I'm assuming she's been going there since she was a camper so she just decided to keep going.

[CAMPFRIEND]

Well I think that it's time for her to move on!!

[Dave]

I hope so. I never liked her much.

[CAMPFRIEND]

I think that it can also add some problems for camp. Like not watching campers!

[speedx5xracer]

I think that it can also add some problems for camp. Like not watching campers!

I have seen this. At my camp we have whats called OD which basaically means you stay in that night and watch the kids. Last summer a councler left their bunk (only allowed in an emergancy) in order to meet up with their GF. The problem was that me and the SC and DH were doing some work in the DH's house and we hear voices coming from the woods. First we think its some of our friends trying to scare us. So we go outside and see this councler and his gf in the woods. The moron walks up to us and starts apoligizing for disturbing us. Then the SC looked on the OD scheduel and saw that he was susposed to be on and the guy sprinted back to his bunk. So the next moring the DH and SC had a talk with him and as a result of his actions he was forced to be on OD for the rest of the session. As a result of that punishment his GF dumped him. Ironic Isnt it

[who_stole_my_loofa]

that super sucks- what an idiot.

At my camp when we are OD we are responsible for 3-5 cabins at a time so we sit on the porch. We are allowed to have same sex visitors any time between 9:30 (bed time) and 11as long as they don't go in the cabin over and over(it's different if it's their cabin or like they have to pee), but after 11 (when we hope the kids will be asleep) we are allowed to have guests of the opposite sex- but only on the porch. People of the opposite sex are not allowed on our hill in the day time though- and never in the cabin.

[ocean]

it's fine with ours as long as the campers didnt find out. But campers were pretty sneaky and usually found out somehow.

[code3cadet]

Ya no girls are to be down it the bay cabins at all.

[CAMPFRIEND]

I have seen this. At my camp we have whats called OD which basaically means you stay in that night and watch the kids. Last summer a councler left their bunk (only allowed in an emergancy) in order to meet up with their GF. The problem was that me and the SC and DH were doing some work in the DH's house and we hear voices coming from the woods. First we think its some of our friends trying to scare us. So we go outside and see this councler and his gf in the woods. The moron walks up to us and starts apoligizing for disturbing us. Then the SC looked on the OD scheduel and saw that he was susposed to be on and the guy sprinted back to his bunk. So the next moring the DH and SC had a talk with him and as a result of his actions he was forced to be on OD for the rest of the session. As a result of that punishment his GF dumped him. Ironic Isnt it

I think that this is part crazy and part funny. I am not sure what to think?

[EchoLaker]

At ours relationships with staff are allowed, just nowhere on camp property - down at the bar in the evening fine, down in the staff lounge - no problem, on time off - happy days. But on camp it stays professional.

We were told to keep our private lives private from the kids - the general message was that "You're active for the best part of 21 hours a day the kids have you during that time, the 3 hours from 10 PM-1 AM are YOURS - keep it that way!"

The kids do though of course like to think of who their councelor is paired with, it turns into a game - it's not hard to laugh it off.

By the time it comes to the Marriage Booth on Carnivale Day towards the end of the year, campers are getting "married" to their favourite staff, and the campers are pairing up staff too ! It's an interesting part of the day, the campers are in control of the pairings.

When it came to our all camp party (2 days before the end of the season) which went quite late into the evening for my age group - we got back to our cabin - and the guys sat around and started to play poker on the porch - sat and had a laugh - and all of a sudden one of my guys asks: "So, the Russian twins from the kitchen staff, looked like they were eying you up all night....." (I knew where this conversation was leading - a case of "Would you"), and it was easy enough to make them blush to bounce back at them the Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen!!

I didn't confirm or deny that such a manage a trois would be undesirable, but with that age group of kids, they knew exactly what they were getting at - so I just turned it round on them ! :p

[Sparkes]

Camp is full of hook ups for counselors, but the campers are never to know whats going on. Though, the older kids aren't stupid and figure somethings going on. And with all the break ups and make ups, half the staff doesn't even know who's with who. And it's only done on our time off, away from camp. Though, walking into the staff room late could be awkward sometimes, but campers aren't allowed near there.

My kids this summer were pairing all the staff off too - based on hair colour and height. It was cute!

[runrachrunn]

At the camp that I've worked at there are definetly couples that hook up. Since I worked in the office, the gossip always seemed to get around to us prett quickly. And more often than not, it was one of the directors who was the bearer of the news.

I can't recall an official "policy" on dating, but I think most of the staff that do hook up with someone at camp keep their mouths shut... Or else, they tell one person, and the next thing you know, everyone knows.

Personally, I don't think it's an issue. I work for a day camp, and so the staff are all over the site all day, and generally don't spend a ton of time with other staff except for lunch, and staff meetings. Like it was said earlier, as long as staff are ensuring that their campers are happy, healthy and safe, i think staff relationships are ok.

[campCardinal]

Camp hookups and dating. It's always fun.

At our camp we don't have a actual policy- but it's expected that you don't flaunt your relationship whlie you're around campers. Our directors understand that it's a part of life -- attraction -- so they don't really make it difficult. If there is a couple on staff that is well known, they will often times be scheduled off together. It just makes life easier for the directors. If the counselors are gaurenteed time off together then they are less likely to flaunt their relationship when they're around campers.

I work in a very small unit at my camp-- about 15 staff members, both males and females. So, we get to be a very close group. It becomes more like brother and sister. But, things we do -- like sometimes we'll skip together, or hug or something of that sort- and all the kids assume that you must be dating. It's pretty easy to laugh it off though.

Also, we as a staff decided that we would like everyone to be respectful of others by keeping PDA out of the staff house. Some evenings after the kids are in bed the counselors all get together. It funny because all the couples quickly seperate.. and the rest of the staff just sits and speculates. Life as residential camp is like life in a fish bowl-- people are always watching your every move.

[Lilbit88]

I've been guilty of having a relationship at camp...oh boy the drama!!! Another bad thing was that after we broke up, I spent the rest of the time dodging him because he followed my every move..ugh!